Over 50 Dating – is Playing the Field for You?
If you are over 50 and dating again, chances are you are discovering a whole new world. It can be overwhelming. Who should I date? Where do I find someone who interests me? How do I make the connection I want and find something meaningful? When is it appropriate to become intimate?
To raise your success and lower your anxiety, start at the beginning, with you. Take time to know the authentic you. Establish a clear understanding within yourself about whether you are really ready and what you want from a relationship. It may not sound romantic, but you have to develop a strategy to find romance that genuinely fulfills you and meets your needs.
To develop your strategy ask yourself a few questions.
- Why do I want to date? Is it for recreation, socializing, sex, or for my ideal match and a long term committed relationship?
- What are my emotional and physical boundaries?
- Should I date multiple people at the same time?
For today’s blog, let’s examine that last question. With the boom of online dating and the availability of many potential partners at your fingertips, the option of dating multiple people at the same time is very real. We used to call it “playing the field” when we were young, but after 50, the terrain of that “field” is not so clear. While chatting, flirting and determining if you would like to meet is doable with a number of people at once, actually dating multiple people can be a juggling act.
Here are a few advantages and disadvantages to help you decide what is best for you. The potential advantages to dating multiple people at the same time include the benefits of simple practice! You can improve your dating skills, become more relaxed with the process and have fun. Another benefit is that you can compare potential partners. This may sound calculating, but as long as you are being honorable, this process could help you clarify for yourself what you need and want in a relationship. …